la Ketch

my life story

Tuesday, June 27, 2006

Lu Lu Eightball by Emily Flake

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Friday, June 23, 2006

hijacked from an e-mail to bog face

I am trying to wish for what is best for me rather than what I want. It's so difficult to wish for something when i don't know what it is...

Still, I am awash in possibility.

Monday, June 19, 2006

putting it out there

Ahem, hello Universe? Um, my husband and I would like a nice looking, clean, two bedroom apartment with a yard in the Greenpoint/Williamsburg area, close to McCarren Park. We would like to pay $1800-$1900. We are willing to pay a brokers fee of 10%. Oh yeah…um, we have a small dog. I hope that’s ok.


Wednesday, June 14, 2006

Lu Lu Eightball by Emily Flake

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Friday, June 09, 2006

loosely based on Dead City (more so inspired by)

I was taking the subway home late last night. I got off the "1/9" so that I could transfer to the "L". There was this girl walking in front of me. She had a really big ass. I couldn't see her face but I would have bet that she was very pretty. She was tall and had really long wavy hair. Her walk was heavy and she was not very coordinated. I couldn't stop staring at her ass because just under her left butt cheek there was a huge rip in her jeans that went horizontally across the entire length of the back of her thigh. This is not a good look on the thinnest of people and on her it was not helping a bit. I had to come to the conclusion that the rip was not intentional, that her jeans were too tight and she sat down too quickly and they ripped accidentally. But the one thing throwing it off for me was that she was wearing a sweater. It wasn’t that cold out, it was quite warm and she could have easily taken off the sweater and tied it around her waist, covering the slit in her pants until she could get home and change them but for some reason she didn’t choose to do this. Maybe it didn’t occur to her. I felt a sudden, certain camaraderie with this girl for some reason. I kept fantasizing walking up along side her and saying something like, “hey, you should take off your sweater and tie it around your waist.” “Oh thank you so much that’s a great idea,” she would gratefully reply. We were walking on the platform towards the stairs and she was still ahead of me as I was having these thoughts but not acting on them and then she hit the third from the top step going up and just about face planted. She tripped right on her flip flops and fell hard. It was an insane trip. I thought for sure she was going to come up bawling. I would have been crying for sure but she didn’t cry. She shoved herself up very quickly and examined her hands which I’m sure were scuffed and a little bleeding. She was pissed and embarrassed. She looked around to see if anyone had seen and then she sort of ran/walked into the long tunnel between the "1/9" train and the "L". She didn’t see me see her fall.

If you don’t know this tunnel, let me explain that it is a tunnel that you have to walk through if you want to get from the "1/9" train to the "L" train without going outside and paying another fare. It is as long as one Avenue (pretty long) and it is tiled with yellowed, white, echoey tiles and lit with horrible florescent lights. It is claustrophobic and disgusting. I used to have to walk through this tunnel twice a day every day to go to work and home again. Luckily I don’t have to do that anymore. Once I was walking through this tunnel with the Sneezemeister. If you don’t know who the Sneezemeister is, picture Simon Cowel from American Idol without the English Accent. I was walking through the tunnel with the Sneezemeister and I said to him, “I hate this tunnel. I always feel like a rat when I'm walking through this tunnel.” And he said, “Really? I always feel like I’m on a catwalk.”

I wanted to run up to the girl again, walk alongside her again and just say to her sort of non-chalantly, “hey, I totally saw you fall back there. Are you okay? God I do that stuff all the time. I’m such a clumsy person. It always shakes me up though. Are you sure you’re okay?” And she would be like, “oh my God I know. I was so embarrassed. Thanks so much for saying something.”

Sister sister, I understand. Sister, you are going to be okay….

I didn’t run up to her and say anything partly because I was shy and I thought I would embarrass her but the main thing that stopped me was that I was afraid that no one had ever reached out to her before in her life and that she would be so relieved that she would glob on to me and force me to give her my phone number and then I would have to hang out with her all the time. Isn’t that the most whacked out thought to have ever? Yeah, I had it.

As we were walking along the tunnel, I saw a poster for the new Superman movie. It’s a great poster, very aesthetically pleasing and gawd, this guy looks like Christopher Reeve, doesn’t he? The movie is called “Superman Returns” and I wondered how it must feel for his wife, to have this movie come out with a young version of her dead handicapped husband “returning.” I felt like that would be a pretty fucked up thing to have to deal with. Then I remembered that she was dead too. I felt sort of relieved for her. Then I thought of their son. Would they invite Christopher Reeve’s son to the premier? Huh.

When I was in elementary school, every year around Christmas time the police department would fly Santa into the soccer field in a helicopter. This would be cool on it’s own but for my sister and I it was especially cool because our dad was flying the helicopter. Of course I told everyone that my dad knew Santa personally. This was the second grade that I’m remembering clearly now and most people still believed in Santa then. I did not because my second grade teacher read us “Tales of the Fourth Grade Nothing” out loud that year, a book that I had already read, and when she got to the part where Peter questions if there is a Santa, she skipped over it. I could see her sort of read ahead and see what was happening and then skip it. If Santa did exist, she wouldn’t have skipped that part. She would have just explained that Peter was wrong but she couldn’t do that. She couldn’t do it because Santa wasn’t real. I had been suspecting as much for a while. Still, it didn’t stop me from making up all sorts of stories about how my dad flew Santa to the North Pole and brought Rudolph carrots. When my dad flew Santa in on the soccer field all of the kids would line up and get to go out and look at the helicopter but my sister and I got to sit INSIDE the helicopter while they passed along, my dad answering their questions, how fast does it fly, etc., us waving. We were royalty.

The junior high school we went to was right next door to the elementary school and when you were in the eighth grade, one of the electives you could choose was to be a teacher’s aid. The year after my dad died I went to help my Second Grade teacher one hour a day, the same class room and everything. Around Christmas time the police department flew Santa into the soccer field and we took the kids out to look at the helicopter. I really wanted to go out there, even though my old second grade teacher told me that I could go home if I wanted to. I walked out there with the kids and we listened to the police officer and we walked back. I guess I was hoping that when I went out there my dad would be there and he’d lift me up into the helicopter and he’d be alive again but that didn’t happen. On the way back to the classroom I was talking to one of the little second graders who I liked. In a lame attempt to reclaim my celebrity I told her, “when I was your age, my dad used to fly the helicopter. He would bring Santa.” She said, “I wouldn’t want my dad to fly a helicopter. I’d be afraid something would happen.” Children can be so intuitive. My old second grade teacher must have said something to the class about what had happened. I walked home instead of going back to the classroom.

I think that’s about how Christopher Reeve’s son would feel if he went to the premiere of “Superman Returns”.

Once we got through the tunnel and onto the platform for the “L”, the train was just pulling up. It was too late to say anything to the girl but I really wanted to see what her face looked like so I made sure to get in her car. She was even prettier than I had imagined. I took a seat and looked around me. I was having one of those very awake and in the moment moments. I was thinking things like, “these are the people I am riding the train with right now. We are all in this one car. Never again will this particular group of people be together in a space again.” I thought about how people would react if we got stuck under water, who might rise up and lead us, keep us calm, who might have food in their back pack. I was looking around at what the women were wearing, checking them out. I am constantly doing this and I continue to be amazed at how beautiful so many women in New York are. Some of them really knock me out with how they put themselves together. I take notes on their outfits (must get silver ballet flats, head bands look cool if you have bangs, etc.). I’m amazed at how good someone can look if they have a good sense of style, even if they have no money. It reminds me that creativity is valuable. I was considering all of this when it occurred to me, “maybe she didn’t even know that her pants had split?!” Could it be? Could she just have been completely oblivious? Because how could anyone A. make that choice consciously or B. not tie the sweater around their waist once the choice had been made for them.

I guess I’ll just never know.

Saturday, June 03, 2006

Not the best photo I've ever taken but still...

Friday, June 02, 2006

don't be cruel

As I’m sure I’ve hinted at on this blog before, I was a very confident, bossy and sometimes very cruel child. I was the oldest of the group who played on our block and I reined it over all of them. All games were played by my rules. My younger sister got the worst of my cruelty but the meanest thing I ever did had to do with this other kid who lived a block over. His name was Eric something or other and he was a little younger than the majority of us and on top of that he wasn’t so bright. He was also really big for his age, tall and fat and had the huge mop of blonde hair. He lived with his mother who was beautiful and bought him extravagant toys and bicycles. He had a really cool bike that he rode around that looked like a dune buggy dragster. It was low to the ground with a bucket seat, two big wheels in the back and one small in the front with a steering wheel. If he hadn’t had that bike we probably wouldn’t have played with him at all.

One day I decided to play a game called “Lobotomy”. I had probably recently learned what this was. My dad had this round light in his workshop in the garage that was on a retractable wire. You could pull it down to the level you needed and then tug and it would ride back up to the ceiling. It looked like something Frankenstein would put on The Monster’s head to get some life flowing. I think you can see where I’m going with this…

It’s so horrible but we lured Eric into the garage with promises of candy, tied him to a chair and pretended to give him a lobotomy. He was scared shitless and he cried and we finally let him go and he ran away. He still came around after that but not nearly as much. I’m almost certain he never told on us. I’m sure he didn’t want us to think he was a tattler. He was probably also really embarrassed.

We didn’t hurt him physically but we terrorized him and I think that on many levels, that is worse. The torturing of this kid is a memory that comes back to me now and again and I like to think of it as the meanest thing I’ve ever done in my life. I like to think that it will remain as such. I often say a little prayer to this kid, telling him how sorry I am. I hope for his sake, that he considers that experience the cruelest thing anyone ever did to him. Unfortunately, it most likely isn’t. He was a very easy target.

The other memory I have that has to do with my being a mean little girl is when I punched Cindy Hagen in the stomach. Cindy Hagen lived across the street and she was the youngest on the block but also she was the toughest. She never, ever cried and we were all in awe of her bravery. One day I started grilling her on this. She was sitting on top of this fence about three feet high at the end of the block and I was standing in front of her, surrounded by the usual suspects saying something like, “You never cry. Why don’t you cry? I’ll bet I could punch you in the stomach right now and you wouldn’t even cry.” And she said, “Yes I would.” And I said, “No you wouldn’t.” And she said, “Yes I would, TRY IT.” So I punched her in the stomach and she fell backwards off the fence, flat on her back and knocked the wind out of herself. When she finally caught her breath she was bawling like a baby and she promptly ran home and told her mother. We couldn’t believe she was actually crying. I felt bad about punching her like that but at least now we knew that she could cry. It had to be done. We all disbanded and I went home. I was sitting in my room about 15 min later when her mother, Shirley Hagen, a very jovial lady but not one to be trifled with, came to the door. My mom answered and Shirley LAYED into her. Told her exactly what I had done and that she expected me to come over and apologize immediately. I remember the words she used very clearly, “Cindy is very tough. She does not cry easily. La Ketch had to have hit her very hard and she didn’t have any reason to. La Ketch is a very mean little girl. She is a very mean little girl. She is a very mean little girl.” She said it three times.

My mother was of course beside herself apologizing. I had to go over there ten minutes later bawling and apologizing to Cindy. My dad almost killed me. It was a definite turning point for me and my cruelty.

The reason I’ve been thinking about all of this is because I had a horrible, horrible dream last night. In the dream I, along with one of my good friends, murdered three people. We shot them as they begged for their lives. It was pre-meditated and a sort of politically motivated crime. I had a strong feeling, especially when we were doing it, that we were doing something right. We took the bodies out to the road and somehow made the people who lived in the house where we shot them think that they had hit them with their car. It looked like we would get away with the murders but my emotions quickly turned to dread. I can not describe how horrible I felt, how low, the doom. I had killed. There was no turning back. It was a very Raskolnikov sort of feeling (he’s the protagonist in “Crime and Punishment” if you’ve never read it).

I started realizing that the only way to absolve myself was to turn myself in and spend the rest of my life in jail. I remember telling myself in the dream, “it’s going to take many, many lifetimes to get over this.” Time seemed so long and I was sick with grief. Then I woke up. Imagine how happy I felt when I realized that my biggest problem was that I had to go to work. What a relief. I loved work in that moment. Work sounded great.

I was still contemplating my dream when Eliott and I were tromping in the tall grass on his morning walk and I thought to myself, “The chances of me actually murdering someone in this lifetime are very low.”

Well, thank God for the little things.

Thursday, June 01, 2006


Memphis was so awesome that there really aren't any stories. It was just perfect. For photos, go to DUP'S BLOG but please, before you go, there's a photo of us all in front of Sun Records and it would be great except that I look like a house. I have to tell you that I am not really that fat. It's the dress. I have since burned the dress, which was Marc Jacobs and my favorite article of clothing until I saw myslef in that fat photo. I look like I've been attacked by a couch. Please, please believe me. I AM NOT THAT FAT. Ok, the pulled porked sandwiches, fried chicken, dry ribs, biscuts & gallons of cheap beer were not exactly helping me.

Still, I will continue to blame the dress.